Energetic Anatomy of Children: Heart Chakra

Love and Balance. The two aspects that have the potential for us to live truly happy, fulfilling lives. 💚💗 Love, Relationships, Self-love, compassion, empathy, forgiveness, self-acceptance and acceptance of others, our social identity and our bridge between the physical and spiritual realities – all of these things live in our Heart Chakra.

Heart Chakra - ChildrenBroad overview of the Fourth energy center, and its developmental characteristics.

  • 💚DEVELOPMENT – 4 to 7 years
  • 💗Body Location – Heart
  • 💚Birthright – The right to love and be loved
  • 💗Element – Air
  • 💚Purpose – LOVE and BALANCE
  • 💗AKA Heart Chakra

Our culture/society may be obsessed with power, but our innate need for love is still a major driving force for us, and especially for our children. The basic right of the Heart Chakra – to love and be loved – is simple, profound, and direct. Children do not calculate their love, nor do they expect great return when they give love – they do it freely and without hesitation.

Sadly, this center is easily wounded and unbalanced. The hurts experiences in this center can have profound impact on both the child and the child’s spirit – affecting mind, body, and emotions, and impacting the very core of the self.

“Nothing is quite so uplifting as the flowering of love, nothing so devastating as it’s loss”. We cannot love without love, yet the children of the world are crying for lack of it.

Disturbances to the development of this center:

  • rejection, abandonment, loss – Constant criticism
  • Shaming
  • Any form of abuse (emotional, verbal, physical, sexual, mental)
  • Divorce – Changes in family structure
  • Death of a loved one
  • Unacknowledged grief
  • Loveless, cold environment
  • Conditional love
  • Betrayal by parents, guardians, or role models

Imbalances in this center can later manifest as:

  • Narcissism
  • Co-dependency
  • Antisocial, withdrawn, cold
  • Critical, judgmental
  • Intolerant of self or others
  • Loneliness, isolation
  • Poor boundaries
  • Clingy, demanding
  • Jealousy
  • Lack of empathy
  • Fear of intimacy
  • Depression
  • Issues with lungs, heart, thymus, breasts, and arms
  • Shortness of breath
  • Childhood asthma and asthma
  • Circulation problems
  • Immune system deficiencies
  • Sunken chest
  • Tension between shoulder blades, pains in chest

From ages 4 through 7, children begin to learn and understand what love, loss, appreciation, and hurt are, they are beginning to learn about and make sense of the emotions or ‘feelings’ that they are beginning to feel and experience (love, anger, disappointment, loss, envy), and although they have not yet developed the ability to verbally express these new emotions, they are beginning to understand these feelings and their associated consequences. It is through these experiences, and this center, that our children begin to witness and experience the complexities of love, relationships, and their relationship with themselves. 💗👫

If you have any questions, feel free to drop me an email at kerry@wherehumrests.com or comment below.

Kerry. Xx

Energetic Anatomy of Children: Solar Plexus Chakra

Jumping back into the energetic anatomy of Kids, understanding how your child grows and develops energetically can help parents be more aware of their kids emotional and physical needs.🌞 The Solar Plexus Chakra governs ego identity, autonomy, physical energy, personal power, will, self-esteem, motivation, and our ability to manifest one’s reality.

A broad overview of the third energy center, and its developmental characteristics;

  • 💛DEVELOPMENT – 18 months to 4 years
  • 💛Body Location – Solar Plexus
  • 💛Birthright – The right to act and be individual
  • 💛Element – Fire
  • 💛Purpose – Transformation
  • 💛 AKA Manipura Chakra

The individuation of a child can be one of the most challenging, but crucial, stages of a child’s development. The ego becomes the anchor of our experiences, forming our identity as we begin to explore our self, our world separate from our mothers, our boundaries and new paradigms – as we begin to separate from our innate support system (our mothers), the ego filters which experiences to hold on to and which to reject, it drives our movement toward discovering new things within our environment and all the while balancing the energies in our system, maintaining homeostasis, and ensuring that we are self-sufficient, safe, engaged, and effective enough to grow and develop.

The ego is born during the ages 18months – 4 y/o, when this center begins to mature and comes as a result of the realisation that we are a separate entity from our mothers. This stage in a child’s life is also referred to as the “terrible 2’s, 3’s, and 4’s… frustration felt by parents as their LO’s begin to push boundaries and define the limits of their new reality as separate beings from their parents.

Disturbances to the development of this center:

  • shaming
  • Authoritarianism
  • Volatile situations
  • Domination of will (over the child)
  • Physical abuse
  • Fear of punishment
  • Dangerous environments
  • Age inappropriate responsibilities (parentified child)
  • Inherited shame from parents

Imbalance in this center can later manifest as:

  • low energy
  • Weak will (easily manipulated)
  • Poor self-discipline
  • Low self-esteem
  • Cold (emotionally and physically)
  • Digestion issues
  • Chronic fatigue
  • Passivity – Aggression
  • Need to be right
  • Power hungry – Competitive
  • Temper tantrums
  • Violent outbursts
  • Stubbornness
  • Eating disorders
  • Muscle disorders
  • Hyperactive

Understanding this center and how it governs our children’s personal power, ability, and activity.The development of a strong sense of self and autonomy is essential for personal growth, self-sustenance, and the recognition of one’s ability for self-determination to take place. 🌞💛

If you have any questions, feel free to drop me an email at kerry@wherehumrests.com or comment below.

Kerry. Xx

Energetic Anatomy of Children – Sacral Chakra

“To lack feeling is to not be alive, but to act on every feeling is to be a child”, Brandon Sanderson.

If you are familiar with your Sacral Center, your second Chakra, you’ll know that this center governs creativity, movement, feeling and sensation, emotions, sexuality, need, pleasure (both sexual and non), and desire. All of these aspects play an important role in the development of your child.

A broad overview of the Second energy center, and its developmental characteristics:
🧡DEVELOPMENT – 6 months to 2 years
🧡Body Location – Lower Abdomen
🧡Birthright – The right to feel
🧡Element – Water
🧡Purpose – MOVEMENT
🧡AKA Sacral Chakra

Senses are an important part of understanding our world, as it is through our senses that we are able to bridge the gap between our internal and external worlds. It is through their senses that a baby is able to feel and perceive, and their value system begins to form.

From the Base center of stability and foundation, a child progresses to the second center where they begin to develop feelings and movement – and they begin to experience CHANGE. Through consistency, their expanding consciousness begins to find meaning, and through change, they discover stimulation and expansion.

Emotions form building blocks to transformation on all levels. Obstructed emotional expression infringes upon a child’s basic right to feel.

Disturbances to the development of this center:

  • Emotionally volatile environments
  • Emotional abuse/manipulation
  • Denial of a child’s feeling states
  • Restriction of movement and exploration – Separation Anxiety
  • Sexual and physical abuse
  • Neglect
  • Restricted play
  • Guilt from parent/caretaker
  • Denial or restriction of things that bring pleasure and joy
  • Inherited issues
  • Cut off from feeling, or being told to stop feeling

Imbalances in this center can later manifest as:

  • emotional disorders (oversensitive, fearful, anxious, emotional dependency)
  • Poor social skills (does not know how to interact in their world)
  • Denial of pleasure
  • Sexuality issues
  • Fear of change
  • Poor boundaries
  • Obsessive attachment
  • Rigidity in the body
  • Problems with reproductive organs (fertility and menstruation, impotence, endometriosis), spleen, and urinary system
  • Loss of ‘appetite’ for food, sex, life.
  • Eating disorders
  • Overly sexual behaviour for child’s age

Understanding how this center influences the development of your children allows a broader perspective of just how important it is for babies and children to experience their world, to feel their feelings and emotions, and to have the freedom (with mom and dad’s watchful eye) to physically explore their world safely.

As they begin to become aware they are no longer attached to their mother and begin to explore the new sensations – fear and joy – that come as a result of this change, how we as parents guide them through this process can ensure they later grow to be comfortable with CHANGE, what they’re feeling, and that it’s okay to have and experience emotions as a direct result of an experience – instilling self-assurance and emotional stability. 🙏❤

If you have any questions, feel free to drop me an email at kerry@wherehumrests.com

Kerry. Xx

Energetic Anatomy of Children – Base Center

The energetic anatomy of children, i.e. their Chakras, offer gifts in the form of life lessons, and when a child is growing and learning to understand their world, and their relationship with their world – these life lessons make long-lasting impressions.

Here is a broad overview of the First energy center, and its developmental characteristics.
❤DEVELOPMENT – Womb to 12 months
❤Body Location – Base of spine
❤Birthright – The right to be here (exist).
❤Element – Earth (our roots)
❤Purpose – FOUNDATION
❤AKA Base/Root Chakra

The Base Center governs the fundamental basic needs, or rights, of every person:
* Food
* Safety
* Love
* Shelter
* Sleep

This center begins to mature while the child is still in utero, and can easily be influenced by the emotional, mental, physical and energetic state of the mother. Once the child is born, it relies on its mother for its survival. However, this center can also become unbalanced throughout a child’s life.

If any of these basic needs is threatened or not met, there becomes an imbalance within this center that further influences both the development of the second center, as well as the emotional development of the child. (As with all emotional imbalances, these can manifest later as physical ailments)

Disturbances to the development of this center:
* Volatile home environment, both before and after child is born
* Abandonment
* Birth trauma
* Neglect
* Poverty
* Physical and emotional abuse
* Inherited Trauma (from mother in utero)
* Broken promises/inability to trust parents

Imbalances in this center can later manifest as:
* low immune system
* Heart problems
* Fatigue
* Poor focus and discipline
* Fearful/Anxious
* Restless
* Hyper-Alert (neuroticism)
* Difficulty focusing on simple tasks
* CPTSD
* Addictive behaviours
* Insecurity/co-dependency
* Poor personal boundaries
* Notable weight issues – underweight or obese (for age)

Understanding how this center influences the development of our children allows us a broader perspective of how they may be processing their world. Understanding how this center develops also offers us valuable insight into our own childhood, any upsets we may have experienced, and how these areas influence how we, as a result, parent our children.

Always be loving, compassionate and open-minded when learning about these areas as it can often uncover some sensitive situations from the past. 🙏❤ If you have any questions, feel free to email me (kerry@wherehumrests.com) or drop them in the comments below👇❤

Kerry. Xx

Energetic Anatomy of Children

Children grow in unique ways. This is undeniable! But so much attention is given only to their physical and cognitive development – we analyze their growth and development according to how quickly they achieve certain milestones. They’re considered early-developers if they happen to roll over, crawl, walk, or talk before a specific age, and slow-developers if it happens after the ‘general age’.

And while these areas of development are absolutely necessary, what mainstream childcare doesn’t take into account or educate about is the energetic and emotional development of your child – how their energy body grows as they do.

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For those of you who are familiar with the energetic anatomy, your Chakras, for instance, may know that we are all born with all of our 7 major Chakras already in place – but what you might not have known, is that each of the Chakras nature’s at different stages, and ages, of our life. The maturity phases of each of our 7 main Chakras plays a MASSIVE role in the emotional, mental, and physical development of our children – their emotions, their moods, their behaviours, phases that they go through – the terrible two’s, 3’s, and 4’s, etc.

Children and their development isn’t as black and white as some would like to think, out children, and their energetic anatomy, is as complex as ours – but gaining some knowledge into it and understanding how it develops over time can offer you extremely valuable insight into your child – it may even answer some questions you’ve had!

If you’re interested in learning about and understand more about your child’s energetic anatomy, and how it changes and influences them as they grow, make sure you are following on either FB or IG, or check back here for my next posts as I explore the different energy centres, and how they develop in children.

Kerry. 💋

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A little truth about your Ego

Like a lot of things that rise in popularity and become an almost societal pop-culture in and of itself, riddled with opinions and ideas of how certain things should be done – there are certain elements of the spiritual/self-help genre that I feel have become heavily infiltrated with the same type of behaviours. Specifically speaking – THE EGO.

Sadly, the EGO has been given a really bad reputation, even so much as being referred to as the false identity that we create of ourselves. It is something that we are inadvertently taught to fear so that we don’t allow it to rule us, our thoughts, or the way we construct our life. Many in the spiritual world teach that the ego is limiting, that in order to be able to live a truly balanced life, we must be able to transcend the ego – the all-consuming energy that has been blamed for everything from destroying relationships to creating insecurities. We become riddled with guilt when we dip into our ego, making ourselves feel better by posting memes on social media that go something like “my ego made me do it…” and label it insecurity, arrogance, EGOtistical.

But what isn’t spoken about the EGO is that it is, in fact, the MOST crucial element in the development of the Self and can be used as our greatest source of motivation. This misrepresentation of the ego is what keeps us stuck in what we think we’re supposed to be doing, as opposed to doing what we know we can do. The only problem with the ego is not that it is limiting, but that we let ourselves be confined by it at all times.

The word ‘ego’ comes from Greek roots e (I) and go (earth) meaning the most grounded part of the individualised consciousness. The ego is born during the ages 18months – 4 y/o, when the Manipura Chakra, the third Chakra, begins to mature and comes as a result of the realisation that we are a separate entity from our mothers. This stage in a child’s life is also referred to as the “terrible 2’s, 3’s, and 4’s…

The ego becomes the anchor of our experiences, forming our identity as we begin to explore our self, our world separate from our mothers, our boundaries and new paradigms – as we begin to separate from our innate support system (our mothers), the ego filters which experiences to hold on to and which to reject, it drives our movement toward discovering new things within our environment and all the while balancing the energies in our system, maintaining homeostasis, and ensuring that we are self-sufficient, safe, engaged, and effective enough to grow and develop. If we want our children to grow up as autonomous individuals, to have power, and to accept responsibility, we need to supply guidance without suppressing the delicate, emerging ego.

Like a new blade of grass, the ego is bravely but tenderly pushing its first shoots above the ground, reaching for the light of the heavens. May we tread carefully, with patience and strength of will, giving it the nourishment, it needs to grow.” Anodea Judith.

As we grow into our lives and experiences different things (both good and bad), this begins to shape the ego – as well as the reactions (impulses) that it holds on to. As with all things, the ego also has polarity, a shadow side, and when the ego becomes weakened or damaged, it can become controlling, self-sabotaging, fearful, uninspired, rebellious – or any of those other negative connotations we associate with the go – in an attempt to restore homeostasis. When we become trapped in this weakened ego state, it can indeed over-shadow us when we allow it to take the wheel, to be in control. This ‘shadow’ side of our ego is called the SMALL EGO. The small ego is what keeps us stuck in what we think we’re supposed to be doing, as opposed to doing what we know we can do. The only problem with the small ego is not that it is limiting, but that we let ourselves be confined by it at all times.

In our early years, the ego becomes the mediator between our developing personal identity and all that we experience in our world. A healthy ego is where a strong will, healthy self-esteem, personal power, and confidence are established – these of course benefitting us later in life in achieving our goals, manifesting our desires, being proactive, successful, and responsible adults. A healthy ego is the fire in our belly that ignites the action, that motivates us to strive forward, to take on new challenges, and to continually be the best possible versions of ourselves.

A healthy ego can be our best friend, if we truly understand it and understand how and why it responds the way it does, because, at the end of the day, our ego is us, we are our ego. Sure, it can be a little over-protective sometimes, but aren’t all best friends like that?

Kerry. xx

 

Healing from miscarriage – the unspoken shame

Sometimes we celebrate life. Sometimes we celebrate the life that was had. But what about the life that was never quite had but lost? How do you celebrate something that never had the chance to live but the absence of the loss is one of the most painful to experience?

I’m talking about miscarriage.

I’m talking about something that I’ve never spoken publicly about. Something few in my life even knew I had experienced. Something that was never spoken about again after it was “over”.
But something that always hits me unexpectedly every year at its anniversary.

14/02. Valentines Day. The day of love.
But for me 14 Feb 2014 will always be the day I miscarried. The day I felt the worst kind of loss I’ve ever experienced. The kind of pain I pray to never experience again. Was it planned? No.
Was it the right time for a baby? Probably not.
Does any of that make a difference?

Something I learned about right at the beginning of my self-healing journey was the concept of cellular and emotional memory & how our body remembers the trauma that happens to it. It holds the pain & emotion on a cellular level.

So it’s not uncommon to feel the pain of a scar around the time of a past surgery…or to unexpectedly re-live emotions so difficult to wade through at the time of a miscarriage. And the shit part is that even when you’ve released and cried and healed that area of your life, the emotions are still hard to process.

So why am I talking about it now?

It helps me process.

But perhaps also to give others who have experienced the loss of pregnancy and are reminded of the feeling of absence every year without warning or preparation, or to maybe help others understand why you’re feeling that way and to say you’re not alone. And it’s okay. It’s okay to feel the pain of a life that could have been but wasn’t.

And it’s okay to talk about miscarriage, what happened wasn’t shameful, and there certainly wasn’t anything you could have done differently to prevent it from happening.

So, if you are like me, and are unexpectedly reminded of it each year – even when you’re happy and think you have moved on but it still somehow finds a way to creep up and make you feel it all over again… then be patient with yourself. It will pass. So will the pain. You may not understand why it happened now but that will come. Just as you’ll always hold space for the love in your heart. ❤

And if you ever need someone to talk to about it, to help you process the pain, please reach out to me. Miscarriage is not something you need to process on your own.

Kerry. Xx

Come join our Tribe of Holistic and Spiritual Parents!

Happy Monday everyone!!  You may have noticed that I haven’t been as active on my blog lately, but as I streamline my business and embrace the evolution of this space I created a year ago and the push to move more into education, I am consolidating all education and guidance into a single place – my Facebook group for spiritual and holistic Parents.

All future workshops, topics, and Lives will be held in this group, so please follow the link to join this group so you don’t miss out on anything!

Group is open to moms and dads of all ages. This is a group/community for Spiritual and Holistic Parents who are looking for guidance, support and like-minded parents to share, care and grow together.

This is a safe space too;
~ explore your spirituality
~ learn about self-healing and personal development because, in order to be the best momma, you have to be the best YOU that you can be 😊
~ explore natural and Holistic parenting solutions and options
~ learn to understand your child from more than just a physical aspect
~ discuss topics that support the spiritual growth of your child, and how to talk to them about spirituality
~ explore self-care methods
~ explore Holistic and spiritual self-healing methods for you and your family
~ share in a judgment-free space
~ seek advice and guidance on group related topics, and others where applicable
~ and much more! 💗🌺✨

To join us, click here. I look forward to seeing you there! Give me a shout if you have any questions. Kerry. xx
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Flower Therapy for Kids

flower therapy for kids“…I feel very strongly there is an intelligence at work in every flower, in every blade of grass, in every cell of my body.” ~ Eckart Tolle. 🌺

Hey Momma’s 🙋🏻If you’ve been following me for a while, you’ll know how much I love gentle, healing energies of Flower Therapy! 🌸If you’re new here 👋Flower Therapy is a form of energy healing done by bringing the unique colour and essence of a particular flowing into the space of the Chakra, or area of our body, that it vibrationally corresponds too. ✨Flower Therapy is a form of both active and silent meditation, from subconsciously selecting the flowers you want to work with, to placing them mindfully on your body and laying quietly while they work their magic! 🌈

Flower Therapy is an amazing holistic exercise that we can do with, and for, our littles; helping to release excessive energies that may be building up in their systems, grounding and connecting them, cleansing and restoring their natural balance (especially when they’ve been around too many electromagnetic frequencies) and energizing them with all those gorgeous high vibes! 💫Kids are naturally more dominant in their lower four chakras, especially from birth to 7 years, making them more in touch with their natural connection to the Earth, but is great for kids of all ages! 💚

So how do you go about doing this?

~ Allow your child to pick a flower for each Chakra (or the colours of the 🌈) , using white or purple for the crown (check previous flower Therapy posts for suggestions).

~ Let me spend as long as they need for this process, they will be attracted to the flower that they need (same applies for you momma!!)

~ Depending on the age of your little, you can have them lay the flowers on their body making a rainbow from their feet up to their head, or they can play with them as they sit quietly with them self.

~ If they are younger, ask them to make patterns or pictures with their flowers – what they create is not important, it’s the process of mindfully having the flowers in their personal space.

~ If they are older, ask them to lay down with the flowers in place, to close their eyes and imagine the rainbow lights from the flowers filling their body, starting with red and ending with their head.

~ When they are finished, they will know, ask them if they saw anything in their imagination, or felt any sensations in their body, if they had any emotions come up or memories while they were laying there. This is a subtle way of introducing them to being conscious of their thoughts, emotions, energies and physical body.

flower therapy for children ~ While your child is choosing their flowers, pay attention to the flowers, and colours, they reach for first! This will give you some insight into which areas, and chakras, need work.

Children are growing and learning (about themselves, others and their world), experiencing new things, overcoming challenges and disappointments, creating and pushing boundaries, loving and being loved, exploring independence but wanting security…. and all of these natural process’ can influence their energetic (and emotional) health. Giving them the tools to help them through these areas and challenges teaches them to;
~ Be conscious of them self, and others
~ Take time to care for them self and respect that others require the same
~ Be empowered and self-heal

Doing this activity with your little is a great way to spend QT with them, and get some beautiful, natural healing in at the same time 🙂 Questions? Pop them below.

Kerry. xx
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Don’t teach your kids to anticipate disappointment.

holistic-parenting-wherehumrestsHey Guys! I know there are a few people who may completely disagree with this but…

Why the heck do we teach our kids to not expect good things happening to them, and instead teach them to not hold expectations for they will only end up disappointed!

I know I was taught this, maybe not by my parents but my teachers, friends, older adults I looked up to and society!! All this does is create a sense of fear within us, and we grow up focusing on the lack rather than what we do have!

If we want to manifest that which we truly desire, we have to truly BELIEVE that we will get it… but how can we believe this if we’re taught to believe the opposite as a child?

Just something to think about, Lovelies.
~ Love & Light, Kerry. Xx
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